http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/2011/07/25/benefit-of-the-doubt-or-doubtful/ Coco B. & the Boys (and Girls) Tue, 04 Oct 2011 12:14:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/2011/07/25/benefit-of-the-doubt-or-doubtful/#comment-7 apryl paige Tue, 26 Jul 2011 17:51:46 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/?p=18#comment-7 Very Profound words.. I think that the heart and mind thing seems confusing but its definately black and white. When you have invested your heart mind and soul into someone who really "WANTS" to let go?? No one. But what's in our best interest? Love doesn't change people. People have to change for themselves.. So We can love someone till we're blue in the face but if that person never loved themselves or doesn't see in themselves what we see. in my opinion we are just spinning our wheels. Im not saying showing love or giving love doesn't affect people.. but we have to decide at some point on what level will we give of ourselves when we are not recieving the same in return..It feels good to love.. it's comfrotable its familiar... so we indulge in it.. but sometimes we have to apply a little intellect to the heart and weigh our options and decide if loving someone else is more important than lovng ourselves. Very Profound words.. I think that the heart and mind thing seems confusing but its definately black and white. When you have invested your heart mind and soul into someone who really “WANTS” to let go?? No one. But what’s in our best interest? Love doesn’t change people. People have to change for themselves.. So We can love someone till we’re blue in the face but if that person never loved themselves or doesn’t see in themselves what we see. in my opinion we are just spinning our wheels. Im not saying showing love or giving love doesn’t affect people.. but we have to decide at some point on what level will we give of ourselves when we are not recieving the same in return..It feels good to love.. it’s comfrotable its familiar… so we indulge in it.. but sometimes we have to apply a little intellect to the heart and weigh our options and decide if loving someone else is more important than lovng ourselves.

]]> http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/2011/07/25/benefit-of-the-doubt-or-doubtful/#comment-6 Ronnie Tue, 26 Jul 2011 16:51:33 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/?p=18#comment-6 Just came out of this very situation girl, the heart is a stubborn little bitch. It wants what it wants until you die or until the mind takes control over matters. Raising a strong man is easier than fixing a broken one. Just came out of this very situation girl, the heart is a stubborn little bitch. It wants what it wants until you die or until the mind takes control over matters. Raising a strong man is easier than fixing a broken one.

]]> http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/2011/07/25/benefit-of-the-doubt-or-doubtful/#comment-5 Kelly Tue, 26 Jul 2011 11:51:44 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/?p=18#comment-5 wow..this one really hits me. I am torn between holding on and letting him figure this out and letting go. But I would only be letting go because my family wants me to. Not because I want to. I guess for me...loving him and holding onto our 17 years together makes me less miserable than letting go would...there are many factors within my decision and it is very complicated. My husband has never liked, let alone.."loved" himself..EVER. I sacrificed so much for him and I would do it all again as long as it made him happy...I still see glimpses of the man I married..the real him. potential CAN be paralyzing...true...but hope can be paralyzing too. I guess each of us knows deep down when it is time to move on without the person. I honestly believe the mind plays tricks...but the heart won't lie...mine never has anyway..great article. wow..this one really hits me. I am torn between holding on and letting him figure this out and letting go. But I would only be letting go because my family wants me to. Not because I want to. I guess for me…loving him and holding onto our 17 years together makes me less miserable than letting go would…there are many factors within my decision and it is very complicated. My husband has never liked, let alone..”loved” himself..EVER. I sacrificed so much for him and I would do it all again as long as it made him happy…I still see glimpses of the man I married..the real him. potential CAN be paralyzing…true…but hope can be paralyzing too. I guess each of us knows deep down when it is time to move on without the person. I honestly believe the mind plays tricks…but the heart won’t lie…mine never has anyway..great article.

]]> http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/2011/07/25/benefit-of-the-doubt-or-doubtful/#comment-4 Tanya Tue, 26 Jul 2011 01:56:30 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/cocobware/?p=18#comment-4 I am so feeling this article. It really hits home for me. I am actually going through a lot of the same thoughts in my current relationship. He does have a lot of qualities that I love, but there are a couple issues that make me wonder if I should call it quits. It is so hard knowing what is the right move. Just as the closing of the article suggests...It is a gamble. You have to play big to win big right? I am so feeling this article. It really hits home for me. I am actually going through a lot of the same thoughts in my current relationship. He does have a lot of qualities that I love, but there are a couple issues that make me wonder if I should call it quits. It is so hard knowing what is the right move. Just as the closing of the article suggests…It is a gamble. You have to play big to win big right?

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