Vixen Vent: Tamera Mowry-Housley and Reverse Slut-Shaming

Posted by on Jul 24, 2013

When Tamera Mowry-Housley’s revealed that she lost her virginity at 29 (and then remained celibate until her marriage, out of guilt), she created a social media storm. It’s troubling that this tidbit – shared with her co-hosts Tamar Braxton, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai and Adrienne Bailon on their new show “The Real” – resulted in such a widespread snark attack.

Since the 1994 premiere of “Sister, Sister,” Tamera and her twin (Tia Mowry-Hardrict) have maintained identical, squeaky-clean images.  They’ve matured with a grace that’s unusual to former child-stars, and have created serious lives as reality TV stars/talk show hosts/ wives and mothers.  But they do know how to get down when the occasion arises.

Tamera and her sister are positive examples of black women in Hollywood, and they’re grown-assed women: so, why is Tamera’s decision to withhold her cookies such a big deal?

Aside from a handful of “you-go-girls” on a few blogs, the majority of reactions to Tamera’s admission have been negative and suspicious.  The Twitterverse is full of disapproving tweets:

“I really don’t believe that story. You’re a celebrity black female virgin until you turn 29? Huh? What? Why?”

“God didn’t intend for you as woman [sic] to lose your virginity at 29. I know for damn sure my honeymoon ain’t openin’ the jar for the first time.”

Talk about reverse slut shaming! There’s nothing wrong with Tamera or her sexual decisions.  And, since she does have a child, we’re sure she can hold her own in the bedroom (even if her sex resume is shorter than most).

It’s really none of our business anyway.  We should respect her personal choices, and those of the many men and women like her out there. To paraphrase Beyoncé, “she’s a grown woman, and she knows exactly what she’s doing”.

-Stacy-Ann Ellis

 

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