A friendship is a relationship, and a relationship is a friendship.
It usually easier to dump my toxic gal pals than it is to dump a bad news boyfriend. It’s easier to avoid calls, decline invitations and be distanced from the situation. We’re less inclined to make excuses for the behavior of our friends than we are for our partners (because he loves us, right?). Toxic friendships often don’t come with the attachment that a toxic relationship does. The lines aren’t as blurred. But if you wouldn’t tolerate it from a friend, don’t tolerate it from your love interest. Either way, the toxins have got to go.
One thing to note here: Love is never toxic.
Detoxing my life of the people, places and things that were no longer serving me is one of the greatest acts of self-love that I’ve ever given myself. It’s something I do as often as necessary, and I implore you to do the same.
Examine what you tolerate in every arena: your friendships, romantic relationships, home environment and work environment. What will you allow? Where will you set your boundaries? People will treat you the way you allow them to, so set the example by how you treat yourself. Sometimes you have to walk away, not to show someone else your value, but because you yourself know your worth.
You wouldn’t eat a rotten apple or drink a vial of poison, so why stay in a toxic relationship of any sort? Does it really matter which is “worse”? They’re both bad and both will take their toll, so girl, get gone! — April Dawn Ricchuito