Not Your Mother’s Blog: Hold On or Put Out?

Posted by on Apr 30, 2013

alesha renee not your mother's blogI haven’t had sex in so long that if the wind blew hard enough in the right direction I just might get overly excited. I mean, sometimes I’m hornier than a teenage boy in a brothel. You might be asking, “Lesh, why won’t you just do something about it?” Well, at this point I might as well wait until it means something, right?

I don’t even know how I got here sometimes. For the first year and a half I was actively looking for a relationship, but I couldn’t find a guy that would act right long enough to where I wouldn’t feel guilty about having sex with him. Sometime after that, I went though challenging times career-wise and financially. My mentality is kind of like a man’s so when I was stressed, finding a partner becomes the furthest thing from my mind. But now that everything is good in my life–rainbows, ponies and all–I realize it’s now been over three years that I haven’t, at minimum, nestled my face in a man’s neck. At this point, I feel this obligation to wait for something meaningful. Meanwhile, I’m feeling like a prisoner to my own moral code and forced to “take the edge off” with erotic dreams and the latest model of the Rabbit.

So I have to ask you guys: In this day and age, where what’s accepted sexually for woman has changed, once you’ve crossed that threshold of holding out, are you down for a quickie just to take the edge off, or do men still value and appreciate a women who’s taken on celibacy for Mr. Right to come along? Do people still value such discipline, or is it a waste of time? Should today’s woman say “I have an itch, and it’s time to scratch it” regardless of cobweb-collecting time, or is there still value in placing value on your little queen? Thoughts? — Alesha Reneé (@AleshaRenee)

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