1. It’s Not All About Him: Make sure that he knows being healthy means being able to take care of you and his loved ones. Knowing your status means that you can be a source of inspiration for those who are still scared.
2. Wrap It Up: If you’re in a long term relationship, chances are you aren’t always using condoms. Besides pregnancy and curable STI’s, this is an express train to AIDS. If your man can’t get his act together, grab the latex or, better yet, abstain from sex until he gets a clue.
3. Simple As 1-2-3: Reassure him that the process is less complicated than he thinks. Most men hate doctors because they feel the experience is invasive and embarrassing. Use words like “we” instead of “I” and volunteer to get tested with him.
4. Say Goodbye: If your man is willing to put your safety at risk, he’s not worth your time. End the relationship and move on to something better.