Ladies the pickings are allegedly slim, and there are fewer truly available men, emphasis on black, to go around. Why is this? I mean we can pull out article after article on what’s wrong with the men and women of today, hold a 10 day conference and the rhetoric will remain the same: “These men need to step up their game,” “if he wants me he gotta have xyz,”..oh and my favorite, “I’m waiting on Jesus to show him to me” ..??!!
Well dammit; I hope that if you read my articles you not only read what’s on the lines, but between them. There is NO shortage of available men and women who are amicable partner-material; however there is a plethora of ignorance between the sexes.
I personally know more women who gained their independence from their families at an earlier age than their male counterparts. Let’s face it, there is a stark difference in the way men and women are brought up. I did not have brothers but I grew up with male cousins who were allowed to get away with hell. Their only obligations were to be around for handyman needs and bill paying, for the most part. More importantly, I noticed and still do, more of pressure put on us females in terms of grooming and curfews. I know that I wanted out ASAP. I chuckle now as I recall fantasizing about my own apartment and this cool thing called rent…ugh why?