2. “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” This is a tricky phrase, especially if you do not know what you want. If you’re honest with yourself and you know you want to be in a relationship, do not be softened by the “right now.” Every moment lived is lived “right now.” Understand if he doesn’t want a relationship with you, his “right now” may be as long as you know him. No matter what you do, or how good you do it, forcing someone to be in a relationship with you is the same as building a jail. Do it and you’ll find you’re dating an escape artist.