Our treatment is determined immediately by our gender. If a girl falls, she’s picked up, coddled, asked if she’s okay and instructed to show mommy where it hurts so that the boo-boo can be kissed. If a boy falls, they’re told, “Boy, be quiet and get back on that bike!”
From a very young age, our boys are taught to be emotionless, to “man up” even when there is no male role model around to show them what that means.
When 66 percent of Black children are born single-parent families, you think men don’t have daddy issues too? Women can use that as an excuse for why they’re now appearing on Bad Girls Club, but society would be intolerant if a man tried to cite that as a reason for his deviant behavior.
One of the most frequent complaints women have about men is they don’t open up or communicate well about their feelings. But let’s be honest: If your man were to come to you and talk freely about his vulnerabilities–maybe even shed a tear over his frustrations–you might turn your nose up in disgust. Showing emotion is often equated with weakness, and in a society where men are supposed to be protectors, any sign of weakness earns a demerit on the manhood scale.
Ladies, you can’t have it both ways. Do you want a man who’s open and sensitive, or do you want a “masculine” partner who will wrestle a bear with his bare hands and not even mention the scratches he earned in the process? Men aren’t good with gray areas.