VV: How would you say London has changed your life?
BV: London has given me purpose and substance and responsibility. He’s everything. He’s taught me a lot. Every morning he wakes up with a big smile on his face, and we usually wake up with a list of things to do. He just would smile and give me a kiss on the cheek and he just makes me so happy. It’s unconditional love and it’s forever; that’s what my album is about. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want people to say this whole album is a inspirational love song to her son. No it’s not. If you want to know what I’ve been doing, get the album.
How do you balance motherhood and getting back into the industry?
I don’t know if there’s a balance for that. It’s tough because when they’re with you, you got to travel with them, and when they’re not with you, you miss them so much. You feel the need to be right there. Everything I do, I have to think about him. Every time I walk outside that house and he’s not right by my side, I have to think what am I going to do, how long is it going to take, is it necessary for me to be away from London.
What’s your relationship with your son’s father?
I cant say I’m a single mother. I have a very stable relationship with my son’s father. He’s not a public person, so I don’t plan to make him one. A lot of people feel forced when they have a child to share the father, and I don’t feel that’s necessary. If he wants to make a statement, he can. But he is very much involved in my son’s life. I was blessed and fortunate enough to meet someone who loves me like I love myself and we created another person that we love so much.
Can you give me 3 tips for people to get over heartache?
First, find what drives you. What is your dream? What is it that makes you get up like, Oh I got to do this. Whatever it is that drives you, get back into and put yourself there. Second, your spirituality. Find a church home, read your bible and you will find strength in that. Third, evaluate. How important is this? Why am I letting this situation rearrange my whole life? Is this necessary? ‘Cause you may find that this is stupid and why was I crying to begin with.