From Hello Beautiful – Nowadays the art of conversation is lost. Many of us stay tip toeing around our partners on egg shells. When we get clues as to what the other person may be thinking, if it’s not what we’d like to hear, it’s an immediate threat to our balance. *Enters insecurity left stage* the first inclination for commitment in a relationship 8 time out of ten comes from the woman. She doesn’t want to give her all AGAIN without it being reciprocated. She doesn’t want the drama, the hassles, and she wants to be the only one. She does not understand why after dating for a period of [insert months here], why “we” can’t just make it official?!
Valid thoughts, very valid, however the one mistake we women are making when having the “so where is this going?” conversation, is that we are not doing enough listening. We know what it is we want, I’m sure, but the question we need to be asking is, “Where are we at?” Here are three important conversations to have before considering committing:
- Are we seeing other people? I think women especially are guilty of walking around with commitment handcuffs in their back pockets ready to lock a man down when she feels the time is right to take things to the next level. Well, you may be ready, but are both of you ready? Do you enjoy occasionally sexting with random men on your BBM? Is he perhaps still keeping his options open? Bite the bullet, don’t make the assumption that you are the only woman and please have this conversation. It doesn’t have to mean the end of a relationship necessarily (depending on what the outcome is); it may just mean you give it more time to develop.