When exes get into new relationships, should they just cut off the relationship they had with one another, even if they were friends?
That’s not necessarily a requirement to cut off everyone from your past, but I do think it’s very difficult to have a new relationship and still be involved with your ex. I think that there must be boundaries once again, and it depends on the nature of the reason why you are friends with your ex in the first place. If you have children involved that’s one thing, but if that person’s an ex and you are just friends, then keep them at a distance as you try to develop a new relationship. Otherwise, it’s going to be very difficult for you to remain friends with that ex because they will be all in your business. That’s the tricky thing with exes; everything can be cool as long as you’re not in a relationship. You think everything is cool and fun and occasionally you hang out or whatever the case may be, until one of you gets someone significant in your life then it becomes a problem. You have to define what your relationship is going to be about.
What is the most difficult hurdle in relationships that you’ve seen?
I think the most difficult hurdle is rebuilding trust once it’s been destroyed. I think for a lot of women especially, once trust has been distorted it’s very difficult to allow your heart to trust again. For men I think it’s loyalty. Trust is important, but if a woman is there with him through thick and thin that’s one thing but if she’s not loyal and will turn her back very quickly it’s very hard for the male to come back and trust her again.
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