But when researchers from Howard and Morehouse put forth a joint study, as they did in August, declaring that 75% of Black women have been married at least once by 40, or that, despite all the seeming e-complaining from Black men about Black women, more than four out of five marry a Black woman, or that the more educated a Black woman is, the more likely she is to walk down the aisle—essentially deading the idea that we lose bonus points, or men en masse are intimidated by Black women’s education and subsequent income—I don’t hear much chatter. When Angela Stanley, a researcher at the Kirwan Institute for the Study of Race and Ethnicity at Ohio State University declares, “This culturally popular notion that 70 percent of black women don’t marry is just a myth,” in an op-ed piece for The New York Times, as she did earlier this month, I don’t get mass e-forwards on BBM and e-mail asking, “Have you seen this?” And I don’t hear and read mainstream media stumbling over themselves to report on it the way they do for, say, a man who releases a video of cartoons mocking Black women’s dating expectations.
If only good news traveled as fast as the bad. That video with the cartoons, created by a long-time married man, went viral with upwards of a million views. Proehl challenges viewers to “think of what it would mean if the Black woman was truly empowered in our society. That would mean we would have addressed issues of race, and issues of gender discrimination in our society, and tied into that issues of class and potentially advance conversations about issue of homophobia.” As I type, YouTube says her video… (drumroll, please) has 2,061 views. That’s worth shooting the Sherriff and the Deputy.
As a fan of Proehl’s video and a cheerleader for her cause, I apologize for adding one more story to the (longest ever) list. It’s still 2011, so maybe this can get read without incurring her—and your–wrath.
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of “A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life” (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter @abelleinbk