Online web series WWMD is a show for the 20-something Vixen mind. Admit it, ladies. There are just some things that we don’t know about these men who hail from Mars, and these three women–Chazeen Pemberton, Guerdley Cajus and Tracy Garraud–decided to help us out alongside an ever-changing panel of male minds. Women everywhere have woes with the opposite sex. Whether we’re seeking the truth about what he likes in a woman or baffled that he’s not initiating a second date, these women are airing it all out. A biblical guide to relationship know-how? Indeed! And the best part? The staunch honesty of each woman who is completely confident in what she brings to her own love rollercoaster. There’s a lot to be learned from these three Vixens (especially in the 60 Seconds of Heat we served up!), so read carefully and take notes! -Niki McGloster
VIBE VIXEN: What’s the back-story on WWMD? How’d you ladies link up?
CHAZEEN: We all went to college together and we used to have a saying, ‘If guys can do it, then why can’t we? WWMD!’ We had it going for years and years, and then we noticed that other people started saying it. I was like, we have to turn this into a venture. We have very different personalities, are from different walks of life and we each represent a different female in this world and how they approach the whole dating scene. The whole idea and the focus was to provide an outlet for women. We talk about dating, but men often say, ‘You don’t know what you’re talking about. You all draw your own conclusions and are over-analytical,’ so we thought to bring these men on the show and find out their point of view of how we’re supposed to view things and approach and react to these situations.
Chazeen, you mentioned that each girl represents a different walk of life, so what does each one of you all represent as a female on the show?
Tracy: Left field. Liberal. Every point is outside of the box. Often times, a girl will get mad at me because I see the male’s view point, and I’ll kind of be against the women. Not in a way where that there’s self-hate, but in way where I’m like, ‘Stop being hyper-feminine, grab your testosterone and let’s go.’ A little bit of a tomboy, but overall left-field.
GUERDLEY: I’m the woman that’s big on being a woman. Femininity reigning! My perspective when it comes to gender politics is always “ladies first.” Honestly, I know it’s important to know what a man will do, but what a woman will allow is more important. I’m really big on a woman owning with her beauty and physical aspect as well. Va-va-va-voom! It’s definitely about being a feminist because I think we’re godly. I feel like we’re put on the Earth to set the tone. My problem with men is they don’t understand that. That’s why I’m on the show. [Laughs]
Chazeen: I’m known for being the more conservative one, in a sense, I feel like the guy should initiate the date and pay for it. I am the one who doesn’t do sex on the first night or f*** buddies. That’s not me. I need to be courted. I’m more of a serious girl, the traditional girl that practices everything your mother taught you to do. I believe there’s certain things men should do, and that’s the only way you’re going to get a date with me. [Laughs]
Why do you think it’s important for women to get into the minds of men?
Chazeen: It just makes for a better dating life overall. If we understand them and what they’re thinking–because we’re so Venus versus Mars–there would just be more success in our dating lives which is something we all want to accomplish here
Guerdley: Even for a woman who’s not looking for an average dating life, we carry a lot of burdens because of relationships gone wrong. It’s important to, at least, understand what happened. It’s natural for a woman to carry more than she needs to, and if we have it well articulated from a male’s perspective, that’s an easier pill to swallow than thinking, I wasn’t good enough.
Tracy: You need to also update yourself on where men and women are right now in relationships. Men aren’t thinking the exact same way they were thinking when you were in high school. That same boy you were crushing on when you were 13 [years old] actually could be a good man right now or be thinking things differently. When we were younger, there wasn’t any Twitter or Facebook. Texting wasn’t an accepted form of communication as it is right now, so I think it’s important for women to get an updated version on what’s going through the minds of men and women right now.
Chazeen: We’re here to brainstorm [for] the average woman, to keep us from going crazy. A unique part of our show is that we interview all different types of men from all walks of life to understand what different men think because not all men are the same. We’ll always get the I-don’t-know-it-depends-on-your-situation answers, so we always have two men on our panel. We also have a “Take It To The Street” session where we interview all different types of men to get a collective amount of responses.
[Laughs] Do you feel like with these honest conversations you’re hoping double standards will fade away?
Guerdley: I do. I think they’ll fade away. I think as soon as women honor they are powerful beyond belief–like the women of Sparta who all said, ‘We’re not going to have sex with you men until you agree not to go to war’–and really hold on to that, we can make a shape-shift. I think women can control a lot with our sex.
Chazeen: I disagree. I think we’ll be forever barred by these double standards.
Tracy: One thing that sucks about our conditioning as women is that we’re conditioned to go to war with one another. Whereas men are programmed to go to war collectively. They’re very familiar when it comes to each other, even when they’re strangers. With our show, as opposed to having one female speak surrounded by guys, there’s a camaraderie of women, and we learn from each other. If women, collectively, come up with a decision of what we expect our men to do, they have no other choice but to follow. We’re just about spreading that conversation.
I definitely agree. Women need to form a unified front. With that said, what are three things you wish women will just accept about men?
Tracy: Women shouldn’t take it personally when men just want alone time. You just have to respect someone’s autonomy.
Guerdley: Another thing women have to accept when it comes to men is they’re only on a high pedestal because society placed them there. I think a lot of our pain stems from disillusionment; they’re not at the standards we hoped they’d be. Before they’re men, they’re human. I think if we accept the fact that they are flawed, then we wouldn’t get hurt as much.
Chazeen: Take the guy as he is, and if he happens to change, that’s great. But don’t walk into a relationship expecting the guy to change for you.