When it comes to topics on the ‘taboo’ list, masturbation is usually somewhere near the top. Whether it’s from fear of religious consequences, shame or guilt, people are generally uncomfortable talking about the art of self pleasure and often deny doing it. The act itself is often attached to stigmas and negative feelings. Some people have even gone as far as to say it causes mental illness, but as more people become comfortable with their sexuality and talking openly about sex, the positives of masturbation are coming to light. According to a Planned Parenthood article, regular acts of self pleasure can reduce stress, provide a sexual outlet for people with out partners (which of course can help limit casual sex and the spread of diseases), induce sleep, strengthen pelvic muscle tone and even promote higher self esteem.
Recently, R&B singer K. Michelle dropped the video for her latest single ‘Sweetest Love.’ The song describes K. Michelle having the best sex of her life and waking up to find that she was alone the whole time. The video shows K. Michelle in bed wearing nothing but her Vicky’s on as she gets extra familiar with herself in some sensual and definitely NSFW ways. The bold track is just one of many in a trend showing people (usually women) coming out of the masturbation closet and becoming more open about the topic. Personally, I see nothing wrong with a little self love from time to time and definitely think it’s a healthy way to build a healthy sexual relationship with one’s significant other. I mean, if you don’t know what you like…how can you tell someone else, right?
So ladies and gents….Do you make love to yourselves? Have you ever felt ashamed or guilty for masturbating? Have you gotten past it?