Comments on: Should Black Women Looking To Marry Consider Bisexual Men? http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men the new style of sexy Tue, 14 Aug 2012 18:18:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Chris http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-5271 Chris Thu, 08 Mar 2012 07:53:55 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-5271 Interesting article! I am a bisexual man. To start, it confirms everything that i suspected about how women in general view me. Thank you for the frank conversation. I sincerely and respectfully appreciate it. For one; women unfortunately are all to often very insecure and dont want to compete with other men as well. The disease thing is a concern, but no more a concern than with straight men. Im just as concerned about it as you are. The only people who arent are impulsive types that are just as likely to snort a rail of coke and get a couple of hookers. Plenty of straight men fall into this type. Its a personality issue not a sexual one. But your risk are higher for std with men like this than they would be with me. Tragically there are those in the closet who feel they have to seek it out on the down low, because they subscribe to the view that there is something wrong with them and get their partners off craigslist or a truck stop. These are at risk people. But its your comments about them that resonate with them,and their lack of acceptance of themselves that create this kind of circumstance. Mr Man is trying to hard to be Mr Man, i ve "been there". Yes it is innate not a choice. Im not any more comfortable being gay than being straight. But i am monogomous. And considerate to my partners feelings and health. Its about descipline,respect and trust. Im white and ive dated black women and black men, and would date any one that i felt a connection with. That connection being built on a foundation of honesty and trust. There was a point after a long struggle in life that i just accepted me for who i am. Even if society didnt. It was a liberating gift from my DNA to be so different. It gave me the perspective to see the beauty in everyone and love you all as one tribe of human beings. Even you haters with all of your insecurities about sexuality. Your own sexuality. And im including the gay men here, who are just as threatend by my sexuality as the women here. One thing i have found is no shortage of women who think im hot knowing who i am. I wouldnt want to date a women who has hang ups like some that i have heard expressed here. I guess thats a win for both of us. We all have our struggles in life, but none of us will make it without each other. Your the ones who seperate your selves from me. All in all i consider myself to be a good man. Interesting article! I am a bisexual man. To start, it confirms everything that i suspected about how women in general view me. Thank you for the frank conversation. I sincerely and respectfully appreciate it. For one; women unfortunately are all to often very insecure and dont want to compete with other men as well. The disease thing is a concern, but no more a concern than with straight men. Im just as concerned about it as you are. The only people who arent are impulsive types that are just as likely to snort a rail of coke and get a couple of hookers. Plenty of straight men fall into this type. Its a personality issue not a sexual one. But your risk are higher for std with men like this than they would be with me. Tragically there are those in the closet who feel they have to seek it out on the down low, because they subscribe to the view that there is something wrong with them and get their partners off craigslist or a truck stop. These are at risk people. But its your comments about them that resonate with them,and their lack of acceptance of themselves that create this kind of circumstance. Mr Man is trying to hard to be Mr Man, i ve “been there”. Yes it is innate not a choice. Im not any more comfortable being gay than being straight. But i am monogomous. And considerate to my partners feelings and health. Its about descipline,respect and trust. Im white and ive dated black women and black men, and would date any one that i felt a connection with. That connection being built on a foundation of honesty and trust. There was a point after a long struggle in life that i just accepted me for who i am. Even if society didnt. It was a liberating gift from my DNA to be so different. It gave me the perspective to see the beauty in everyone and love you all as one tribe of human beings. Even you haters with all of your insecurities about sexuality. Your own sexuality. And im including the gay men here, who are just as threatend by my sexuality as the women here. One thing i have found is no shortage of women who think im hot knowing who i am. I wouldnt want to date a women who has hang ups like some that i have heard expressed here. I guess thats a win for both of us. We all have our struggles in life, but none of us will make it without each other. Your the ones who seperate your selves from me. All in all i consider myself to be a good man.

]]> By: Jay http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-4244 Jay Wed, 25 Jan 2012 09:21:24 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-4244 I am a straight male who love and is married to a bisexual woman. We both look at women (me more) and comment. As a matter of fact I'm always trying to get her to bring someone into our bed (he he he). But serious i'm cool with it and I love her to death. Never really thought about it the other way around. Interesting. I am a straight male who love and is married to a bisexual woman. We both look at women (me more) and comment. As a matter of fact I’m always trying to get her to bring someone into our bed (he he he). But serious i’m cool with it and I love her to death. Never really thought about it the other way around. Interesting.

]]> By: im_just_gonna_say_it http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-3770 im_just_gonna_say_it Wed, 04 Jan 2012 22:41:18 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-3770 I am not a fan of men who sleep with men. Maybe in porn, but thats it. It sickens me to think that my man can get sexual pleasure and relief from another dude. Making all them sex faces and moaning like it's just right--- but from a dude. No. Just let him be gay and don't mess with me please. Dont get me wrong, I have nothing against gay and bisexual men (that are not trying to hook up with me). Plus I'm a freak. I can watch that in porn and get off but those are not my men. Im insecure enough having to worry if big-booty tamika been creeping with my man on the low, now I have to worry about Tyrone too? Hellll No! I am not a fan of men who sleep with men. Maybe in porn, but thats it. It sickens me to think that my man can get sexual pleasure and relief from another dude. Making all them sex faces and moaning like it’s just right— but from a dude. No. Just let him be gay and don’t mess with me please.

Dont get me wrong, I have nothing against gay and bisexual men (that are not trying to hook up with me). Plus I’m a freak. I can watch that in porn and get off but those are not my men.

Im insecure enough having to worry if big-booty tamika been creeping with my man on the low, now I have to worry about Tyrone too? Hellll No!

]]> By: See the light http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-2501 See the light Thu, 10 Nov 2011 23:08:40 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-2501 Is the woman who wrote this black? If so, it makes her comments even more offensive. I believe one of my dear mother’s favorite quotes is in order here, “If you don’t have anything sensible to say…” I am sick a tired of people telling black women how they should lower their standard to find a man. Perhaps the black man needs to raise his and get some racial pride then he would not feel the need to be chasing women from every other racial background except his own. Look around you, the black man is the only male in the animal kingdom who seems to be unable to cope with his own female. So, perhaps the problem is not with his woman! If he is so brainwashed and stupid that he can’t see the beauty in his own kind, then shame on him. If he thinks that a women from other races will advance him professionally, he’s the exact reason black people are struggling to progress as a race. If he’s looking for a woman from another racial group because she can offer him more financially, then he’s not such a catch after all is he girls? If he’s dating/married to a woman from another race because she is docile, then good luck to him (and her) I could go on, but I’m bored now! Black women do not need to marry bisexuals, they just need their own men to MAN UP!!! Really Danielle, your article is extremely crass and I feel very embarrassed for you that you feel you had to lower yourself to write it. Perhaps you get paid by the article, but really girl, have some self respect! I’ll tell you what, why not try this little experiment out on yourself, then you can come back on here in a few years time and let us all know how you’re getting on. Finally, very few black women are likely to spend the whole night with a man they had just met that morning ‘on the way to work’, but then again maybe that’s another reason why the black man won’t date them. Is the woman who wrote this black? If so, it makes her comments even more offensive. I believe one of my dear mother’s favorite quotes is in order here, “If you don’t have anything sensible to say…”

I am sick a tired of people telling black women how they should lower their standard to find a man. Perhaps the black man needs to raise his and get some racial pride then he would not feel the need to be chasing women from every other racial background except his own. Look around you, the black man is the only male in the animal kingdom who seems to be unable to cope with his own female. So, perhaps the problem is not with his woman!

If he is so brainwashed and stupid that he can’t see the beauty in his own kind, then shame on him.

If he thinks that a women from other races will advance him professionally, he’s the exact reason black people are struggling to progress as a race.

If he’s looking for a woman from another racial group because she can offer him more financially, then he’s not such a catch after all is he girls?

If he’s dating/married to a woman from another race because she is docile, then good luck to him (and her)

I could go on, but I’m bored now!

Black women do not need to marry bisexuals, they just need their own men to MAN UP!!!

Really Danielle, your article is extremely crass and I feel very embarrassed for you that you feel you had to lower yourself to write it. Perhaps you get paid by the article, but really girl, have some self respect!

I’ll tell you what, why not try this little experiment out on yourself, then you can come back on here in a few years time and let us all know how you’re getting on.

Finally, very few black women are likely to spend the whole night with a man they had just met that morning ‘on the way to work’, but then again maybe that’s another reason why the black man won’t date them.

]]> By: Greg http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-2427 Greg Mon, 07 Nov 2011 23:11:00 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-2427 Reading some of these comments was really irritating. Bisexual is not gay, any more than green is blue. Gay means attracted solely to the same gender. Sraight means attracted solely to the opposite gender. Bisexual denotes an attraction to both. Someone brought up the issue of hypersexuality - gender orientation is NOT an indication of libido levels. Someone brought up the issue of cheating - gender orientation is NOT a reflection of a person's character. Some bisexuals NEED sexual interaction with both genders. If that's the case, then a monogamous couple relationship is challenged. They may be most comfortable in a triad, or another non-traditional arrangement. Other bisexuals need sexual interaction with one mate, the person they fall in love with, regardless of gender. I am a bisexual male. I've been in long-term relationships, one four years long, another one twelve years long. No cheating, no lying, no foul play. Faithful and monogamous. Please stop with your mischaracterization and your prejudice. In response to the original post: Any relationship has its challenges. A man can be a workaholic, a player, a user, a mamma's boy, or lazy, or hot-tempered, or too mellow, with a high sex drive, with a low sex drive, etc. Each of these will have its own challenges. Dating a bisexual man will bring its own set of challenges. If you decide to be with him anyway, then you'll need to ACCEPT him as a bisexual person, not expect him to "get over it" (@Been_There). A bisexual man will like to look at men as much as look at women. Are you prepared to deal with that? Are you comfortable with the idea of both of you exchanging a smile when a hot guy walks by? Are you comfortable pleasing him sexually in all the ways he enjoys? (He might enjoy the ocassional role-switch, for example). It's not only about him, whether he will cheat or treat you right. It's about you - what your expectations are of a man, what your image is of a man, etc. You can have a great relationship with a bisexual man. Do not treat him as if he was gay though, and do not treat him as though he was straight. Accept him for how and what he is. Of course dating a straight man is more predictable. But I recommend judging EACH man by his character and by his personality, and not by your prejudices. Greg Reading some of these comments was really irritating.
Bisexual is not gay, any more than green is blue.
Gay means attracted solely to the same gender.
Sraight means attracted solely to the opposite gender.
Bisexual denotes an attraction to both.
Someone brought up the issue of hypersexuality – gender orientation is NOT an indication of libido levels.
Someone brought up the issue of cheating – gender orientation is NOT a reflection of a person’s character.
Some bisexuals NEED sexual interaction with both genders. If that’s the case, then a monogamous couple relationship is challenged. They may be most comfortable in a triad, or another non-traditional arrangement.
Other bisexuals need sexual interaction with one mate, the person they fall in love with, regardless of gender.
I am a bisexual male.
I’ve been in long-term relationships, one four years long, another one twelve years long. No cheating, no lying, no foul play. Faithful and monogamous.
Please stop with your mischaracterization and your prejudice.
In response to the original post:
Any relationship has its challenges. A man can be a workaholic, a player, a user, a mamma’s boy, or lazy, or hot-tempered, or too mellow, with a high sex drive, with a low sex drive, etc. Each of these will have its own challenges. Dating a bisexual man will bring its own set of challenges. If you decide to be with him anyway, then you’ll need to ACCEPT him as a bisexual person, not expect him to “get over it” (@Been_There). A bisexual man will like to look at men as much as look at women. Are you prepared to deal with that? Are you comfortable with the idea of both of you exchanging a smile when a hot guy walks by? Are you comfortable pleasing him sexually in all the ways he enjoys? (He might enjoy the ocassional role-switch, for example).
It’s not only about him, whether he will cheat or treat you right.
It’s about you – what your expectations are of a man, what your image is of a man, etc.
You can have a great relationship with a bisexual man.
Do not treat him as if he was gay though, and do not treat him as though he was straight. Accept him for how and what he is.
Of course dating a straight man is more predictable.
But I recommend judging EACH man by his character and by his personality, and not by your prejudices.
Greg

]]> By: Newbee http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-2388 Newbee Sat, 05 Nov 2011 01:40:33 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-2388 I sympathize with Been There. To really understand this issue I recommend taking a deeper look at gender and sexuality as well as the human psyche. Many bisexual men feel ostrosized and feel as though straights nor gays dont accept them; and that they are seen as gay in transition rather than someone attracted to both sex. After dating my boyfriend for a year he told me he was bisexual. I almost had a mental breakdown but decided to be open minded. And what many people dont like to admit is that bi sexual men are hypersexual; men are known to be more sexual than women and tend to look at sex differently. Therefore when dating a bi sexual who is hypersexual is dangerous to your heart and health. My boyfriend at the time admitted that bisexual man would find it easier to cheat with a man because men don't have the same emotional attachment to sex as women and men love sex - and even said he prefer straight men. Therefore monagony is difficult in these situation and I found myself being suspecious and becoming increasingly insecure. Also, lets not forget bisexual men/MSM accounts for a large % of HIV cases; 1 in 3 of MSM have HIV. So given this groups susceptibility of this group of men to cheat, get and transmitt HIV and impact your insecurities, i recommend heterosexual black women to pursue heterosexual men. Even given these factors I found it hard to leave my boyfriend but once my theorpist and I also realized that he was a puer aeturnus I knew it wasn't going to work. this archetype is typically bi sexual, young, non feminine and non masculine, come from homes with no father figure or a passive father, and a strong mother that soaks up the energy required to turn this boy into a man. In short, understand gender and sexually alone isn't enough. understanding the pysche is key I sympathize with Been There. To really understand this issue I recommend taking a deeper look at gender and sexuality as well as the human psyche. Many bisexual men feel ostrosized and feel as though straights nor gays dont accept them; and that they are seen as gay in transition rather than someone attracted to both sex. After dating my boyfriend for a year he told me he was bisexual. I almost had a mental breakdown but decided to be open minded. And what many people dont like to admit is that bi sexual men are hypersexual; men are known to be more sexual than women and tend to look at sex differently. Therefore when dating a bi sexual who is hypersexual is dangerous to your heart and health. My boyfriend at the time admitted that bisexual man would find it easier to cheat with a man because men don’t have the same emotional attachment to sex as women and men love sex – and even said he prefer straight men. Therefore monagony is difficult in these situation and I found myself being suspecious and becoming increasingly insecure. Also, lets not forget bisexual men/MSM accounts for a large % of HIV cases; 1 in 3 of MSM have HIV. So given this groups susceptibility of this group of men to cheat, get and transmitt HIV and impact your insecurities, i recommend heterosexual black women to pursue heterosexual men. Even given these factors I found it hard to leave my boyfriend but once my theorpist and I also realized that he was a puer aeturnus I knew it wasn’t going to work. this archetype is typically bi sexual, young, non feminine and non masculine, come from homes with no father figure or a passive father, and a strong mother that soaks up the energy required to turn this boy into a man. In short, understand gender and sexually alone isn’t enough. understanding the pysche is key

]]> By: giorgio http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-1842 giorgio Wed, 05 Oct 2011 12:06:11 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-1842 a very nice black female friend of mine with two eccelent children , is getting envolved in a very serius relationship with a bisexual man. could anybody out there give her some advice so for her to decide not to make the life marking disicion that could probabley lead to a catastrofe. women with such experience much apreciated. a very nice black female friend of mine with two eccelent children , is getting envolved in a very serius relationship with a bisexual man. could anybody out there give her some advice so for her to decide not to make the life marking disicion that could probabley lead to a catastrofe. women with such experience much apreciated.

]]> By: giorgio http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-1841 giorgio Wed, 05 Oct 2011 11:35:03 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-1841 a intellegent nice black female friend with two excellent children , is getting involved in a serius relation with a bisexual man....could anybody out there give some sincere advise so to save her from possible life marking mistake. a intellegent nice black female friend with two excellent children , is getting involved in a serius relation with a bisexual man….could anybody out there give some sincere advise so to save her from possible life marking mistake.

]]> By: Somerset http://www.vibevixen.com/2011/08/should-black-women-looking-to-marry-consider-bisexual-men/#comment-1684 Somerset Fri, 23 Sep 2011 14:18:53 +0000 http://www.vibevixen.com/?p=5810#comment-1684 Maybe black women should also consider anatomically enchanced, non-biological black males. As long as he's black he gets a pass, right? Maybe black women should also consider anatomically enchanced, non-biological black males. As long as he’s black he gets a pass, right?

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