Picture it.
You’re on your way to work, checking your Blackberry as you rush down the street, when you bump into a man. Not just any man, an Adonis. He gives his apologies, pays you a compliment and you engage in brief chit chat before eventually exchanging numbers and heading on your way. Later that evening he calls and you spend the entire night into the morning getting to know him. This Adonis is all you’ve been looking for. He’s tall, dark, handsome, college educated, stable career, decent credit, owns a condo, athletic, has never been in jail, no kids, loves his momma…the works! Over the weekend you two head out on a date and have a fantastic time, sparks fly.
A few more dates go by and you learn that he is more than ready to settle down and have kids, matter of fact, his views on marriage and family life practically mirror your own. Score! You start to think ‘Where has this man been all my life! Could my search be over?’ Later that night he calls you to tell you how much he likes you and enjoys being with you, you gladly return the compliment and just as you feel yourself floating up to cloud nine he says “I really like you and would love to get to know you better, but I must be honest. I’m bisexual.”
Pause for dramatic effect.
Yup, this man that meets every single qualification on your list and is perfect marriage material is a bisexual man. What happens now? Do you scratch him off the list and call your girls to complain, yet again, about how you can’t find a good black man? But wait, he is a good black man….isn’t he? The plight of the single black woman is well documented; a simple Google search will yield tons of articles discussing our issues when it comes to marriage. Earlier this week Ralph Banks, a writer for The Wall Street Journal, suggested that the solution to our problems would be to simply marry a white man. Now if white men, who Banks readily admits don’t necessarily want us, need to become an option in order to increase our potential marriage pool, should we also start including bisexual men?
Hear me out.
I’m not talking about homosexual men who are still trapped in R. Kelly’s closet, I’m talking about good, decent, hardworking men who are honest about their sexual desires for other men, yet still sincerely desire to be married and have a family with a woman…a black woman. If these men meet all the qualifications we as black women are seeking, should they be counted out simply because they have slept with men? Does the fact that they sleep with men automatically negate their ‘Good Black Man’ status and husband potential? Straight men marry bisexual women all the time without blinking an eye, a bisexual woman’s preferences rarely, if ever, take her out of the running when it comes to marriage and motherhood. Why couldn’t this be the case for a bisexual man? Think of how many more potential husbands and fathers could be added to our supposedly shrinking marriage pool if we opened ourselves up to this idea.
There’s a fairly recent article over on The Fresh Xpress in which the writer, Rippa, speaks on this topic as it relates to his friend Corey. Corey is all of the things I’ve mentioned above, he meets the ‘Good Black Man’ standard, and he is also bisexual. According to Rippa:
“There are many bisexual (and homosexual) men and women who exhibit behavior in line with traditional gender roles up to and including the desire to marry someone they love and are waiting for the day when it will be their turn to pop out some youngins.
But what are the odds that a Black woman would still find this “Good” Black man to still be a worthwhile catch upon learning that he is bisexual? Would these Black women who are so desperate to find a ‘soul mate’ be willing to consider life with a man who openly and honestly admits to having maintained past relationships with both men and women? If he were to commit to one woman while in a relationship I don’t feel like his sexual history with men would matter any more than a straight man’s sexual history with other women. After all, as a bi man, Corey is DEFINITELY attracted to Black woman.”
So ladies, would you ever consider dating and marrying a bisexual man? Is a history of sexual relations with men an automatic disqualification for you? Why?
Speak on it!
January 25th, 2012 | 4:21 am
I am a straight male who love and is married to a bisexual woman. We both look at women (me more) and comment. As a matter of fact I’m always trying to get her to bring someone into our bed (he he he). But serious i’m cool with it and I love her to death. Never really thought about it the other way around. Interesting.
January 4th, 2012 | 5:41 pm
I am not a fan of men who sleep with men. Maybe in porn, but thats it. It sickens me to think that my man can get sexual pleasure and relief from another dude. Making all them sex faces and moaning like it’s just right— but from a dude. No. Just let him be gay and don’t mess with me please.
Dont get me wrong, I have nothing against gay and bisexual men (that are not trying to hook up with me). Plus I’m a freak. I can watch that in porn and get off but those are not my men.
Im insecure enough having to worry if big-booty tamika been creeping with my man on the low, now I have to worry about Tyrone too? Hellll No!
November 10th, 2011 | 7:08 pm
Is the woman who wrote this black? If so, it makes her comments even more offensive. I believe one of my dear mother’s favorite quotes is in order here, “If you don’t have anything sensible to say…”
I am sick a tired of people telling black women how they should lower their standard to find a man. Perhaps the black man needs to raise his and get some racial pride then he would not feel the need to be chasing women from every other racial background except his own. Look around you, the black man is the only male in the animal kingdom who seems to be unable to cope with his own female. So, perhaps the problem is not with his woman!
If he is so brainwashed and stupid that he can’t see the beauty in his own kind, then shame on him.
If he thinks that a women from other races will advance him professionally, he’s the exact reason black people are struggling to progress as a race.
If he’s looking for a woman from another racial group because she can offer him more financially, then he’s not such a catch after all is he girls?
If he’s dating/married to a woman from another race because she is docile, then good luck to him (and her)
I could go on, but I’m bored now!
Black women do not need to marry bisexuals, they just need their own men to MAN UP!!!
Really Danielle, your article is extremely crass and I feel very embarrassed for you that you feel you had to lower yourself to write it. Perhaps you get paid by the article, but really girl, have some self respect!
I’ll tell you what, why not try this little experiment out on yourself, then you can come back on here in a few years time and let us all know how you’re getting on.
Finally, very few black women are likely to spend the whole night with a man they had just met that morning ‘on the way to work’, but then again maybe that’s another reason why the black man won’t date them.
November 7th, 2011 | 7:11 pm
Reading some of these comments was really irritating.
Bisexual is not gay, any more than green is blue.
Gay means attracted solely to the same gender.
Sraight means attracted solely to the opposite gender.
Bisexual denotes an attraction to both.
Someone brought up the issue of hypersexuality – gender orientation is NOT an indication of libido levels.
Someone brought up the issue of cheating – gender orientation is NOT a reflection of a person’s character.
Some bisexuals NEED sexual interaction with both genders. If that’s the case, then a monogamous couple relationship is challenged. They may be most comfortable in a triad, or another non-traditional arrangement.
Other bisexuals need sexual interaction with one mate, the person they fall in love with, regardless of gender.
I am a bisexual male.
I’ve been in long-term relationships, one four years long, another one twelve years long. No cheating, no lying, no foul play. Faithful and monogamous.
Please stop with your mischaracterization and your prejudice.
In response to the original post:
Any relationship has its challenges. A man can be a workaholic, a player, a user, a mamma’s boy, or lazy, or hot-tempered, or too mellow, with a high sex drive, with a low sex drive, etc. Each of these will have its own challenges. Dating a bisexual man will bring its own set of challenges. If you decide to be with him anyway, then you’ll need to ACCEPT him as a bisexual person, not expect him to “get over it” (@Been_There). A bisexual man will like to look at men as much as look at women. Are you prepared to deal with that? Are you comfortable with the idea of both of you exchanging a smile when a hot guy walks by? Are you comfortable pleasing him sexually in all the ways he enjoys? (He might enjoy the ocassional role-switch, for example).
It’s not only about him, whether he will cheat or treat you right.
It’s about you – what your expectations are of a man, what your image is of a man, etc.
You can have a great relationship with a bisexual man.
Do not treat him as if he was gay though, and do not treat him as though he was straight. Accept him for how and what he is.
Of course dating a straight man is more predictable.
But I recommend judging EACH man by his character and by his personality, and not by your prejudices.
Greg
November 4th, 2011 | 9:40 pm
I sympathize with Been There. To really understand this issue I recommend taking a deeper look at gender and sexuality as well as the human psyche. Many bisexual men feel ostrosized and feel as though straights nor gays dont accept them; and that they are seen as gay in transition rather than someone attracted to both sex. After dating my boyfriend for a year he told me he was bisexual. I almost had a mental breakdown but decided to be open minded. And what many people dont like to admit is that bi sexual men are hypersexual; men are known to be more sexual than women and tend to look at sex differently. Therefore when dating a bi sexual who is hypersexual is dangerous to your heart and health. My boyfriend at the time admitted that bisexual man would find it easier to cheat with a man because men don’t have the same emotional attachment to sex as women and men love sex – and even said he prefer straight men. Therefore monagony is difficult in these situation and I found myself being suspecious and becoming increasingly insecure. Also, lets not forget bisexual men/MSM accounts for a large % of HIV cases; 1 in 3 of MSM have HIV. So given this groups susceptibility of this group of men to cheat, get and transmitt HIV and impact your insecurities, i recommend heterosexual black women to pursue heterosexual men. Even given these factors I found it hard to leave my boyfriend but once my theorpist and I also realized that he was a puer aeturnus I knew it wasn’t going to work. this archetype is typically bi sexual, young, non feminine and non masculine, come from homes with no father figure or a passive father, and a strong mother that soaks up the energy required to turn this boy into a man. In short, understand gender and sexually alone isn’t enough. understanding the pysche is key
October 5th, 2011 | 8:06 am
a very nice black female friend of mine with two eccelent children , is getting envolved in a very serius relationship with a bisexual man. could anybody out there give her some advice so for her to decide not to make the life marking disicion that could probabley lead to a catastrofe. women with such experience much apreciated.
October 5th, 2011 | 7:35 am
a intellegent nice black female friend with two excellent children , is getting involved in a serius relation with a bisexual man….could anybody out there give some sincere advise so to save her from possible life marking mistake.
September 23rd, 2011 | 10:18 am
Maybe black women should also consider anatomically enchanced, non-biological black males. As long as he’s black he gets a pass, right?
September 22nd, 2011 | 10:20 am
Mr. Man, I’d like to give you a standing ovation! I can’t believe this has been even brought up as an option. Can we say DESPERATE????
September 21st, 2011 | 9:26 pm
Mr. Man, you said it all. Are we black women really this desperate? How could this even reasonably be thought of as an “option” – SMH!
September 16th, 2011 | 9:01 am
This article was very on point and I agree with it whole heartedly,
relationships are based on love and trust. The real stuff that makes
a relationship work. Love and trust, if you love someone but don’t
trust them; Then that relationship will not work. If you love someone
and trust them, but you are disgusted with what they have done in the past,
then you have the options: Leave, or stay with them.
Remembering why you love someone and how faithful and trustworthy
they have been in the relationship you have had wouldn’t that
reinforce your bond with that significant other? People who find
love and cherish their partner are the ones that experience those
wonderful, lifetime marriages and partnerships. Bisexuality is
a beautiful thing and few people genuinely understand it.
Most people here spoke their opinions on the subject;
But no one, not even the author of this article is qualified to
pass judgment in a moral, ethical sense about it.
If indeed Mr. Right was perfect for that woman in every way,
but she doubted his potential to be with her and experience the
joy of matrimony because he was being honest with her
and gave her the opportunity to commit to the relationship.
Apparently, there was something wrong with the woman in that
hypothetical scenario. I know that writing this isn’t going to
change any minds because ignorance is an illness mankind has
been plagued with since man existed.
Let me at least finish with this part though for all of the people
that read this in the future, bisexuality does not mean that
a person is attracted to and has urges for both genders. Making
Generalizations like that are stereotypical falsehoods.
Bisexual means that an individual is capable of being with
either gender, that doesn’t make a person any more likely
to remain faithful in a heterosexual or same sex relationship.
Cheaters are people who are unable to remain faithful
to the person they are in a relationship with. Men cheat and so
do women regardless of sexual preference.
August 28th, 2011 | 10:01 pm
I say black women looking to marry should work on themselves more physically, intellectually, and culturally. Once they do this, they will have a different perspective on dating and marriage. The media is making this more of an issue than we naturally would. I say we focus on finding best friends and from there love and marriage result. But looking to get married is not the way to go. If no black women entertained this “crisis” then we wouldn’t have it. It’s so embarrassing to be honest and it isn’t acceptable. Black women deal with the same issues as everyone is in their quest to find a quality mate. Be patient and persistent.
August 24th, 2011 | 6:25 pm
I know people say that bisexual doesn’t necessarily equal non-monogamous. At the same time, desires are desires. People have a hard enough time being straight and keeping their lust in check, now we should add dating someone who likes both sexes to the equation? The article DOES pose an interesting question. I am not against gays or bisexuals, but I there’s this common idea because of the lack of suitable dating options that black women are always supposed to settle for less. Wanting an educated, respectable, employed, moral, straight black man is TOO much they tell us. I know that there are very few eligible black men compared to the number of black women, but unless both people are bisexual and this is their thing I don’t advise it. I don’t think it’ll work. Men who accept bisexual females do it because they usually want to join in or think they’ll benefit from it.
That setup may work in some relationships, but if you’re bisexual, you should probably date another bisexual, especially if you still intend to act on your desire for the same sex. I’m not close minded and know sexuality is complex. Everyone needs companionship, but I don’t think black women should sell themselves short and accept ANYTHING just to have a man.
August 17th, 2011 | 4:01 pm
I think it all boils down to preference. Could I personally be attracted to a man that I know is open to being with both men and women, no, but to each his own. I know this is going to come across as some as being stereotypical but the chances of a man dating a bi-sexual female is larger than a woman that choosed to date a bi-sexual male because it’s just more accepted. I mean, how many times have you gone into a club and seen two women dancing on each other seductively and men sit on the sidelines and drool. The same can’t be said of two males. I do not happen to know any women that are aroused by the thought of two men but if I did, I wouldn’t judge, it’s just their preference.
August 17th, 2011 | 7:57 am
Why would you even sit down to write something like this?? Were you high?
Black women, individually, should date whomever they choose. They don’t need some crackpot writer whose attempt at being provocative comes off as silly and dismissible. This isn’t funny.
August 16th, 2011 | 11:39 am
Danielle… This has to be a joke… or this is your way of getting us women all riled up…
I just want to address the STD issue. I don’t think STDs is a valid argument because anyone can get a STD… The issue is a man who is attracted to MEN. A BISEXUAL MAN… So women who are looking for hetersexual men should really reconsider and open up our minds to a bisexual man??? Really???? Wow… Guess black women are so desperate that we have to consider BISEXUAL MEN???? Yeah, I find that to be a real turn on.. A man telling me about a time he dated another man. The idea of a man being with another man isn’t what turns me off.. It’s the idea that a man who has been with men in the past would be with me now in the present.
I have a question… So a black woman can’t be content with meeting a man when the time is right.. We need to consider a bisexual man??? I’m not knocking what others do but I think the article is a bit insulting to women who ONLY want a heterosexual man. I’m sorry I try to be tolerant about the alternative lifestyle but I don’t want a man who is attracted to other men much less who has slept with other men… Wow!!!
August 15th, 2011 | 10:16 pm
Wow, some of you are so close-minded. Bisexual people are NOT inherently non-monogamous. So that means that any bisexual person doesn’t deserve to be married? As a bisexual woman who is engaged to a man, I think you all really need to stop with the hate-spewing and misconceptions. I deserve to be married as much as any other woman, and a bisexual man deserves the same. I plan to be monogamous with my husband, and being sexual attracted to women is not going to make me cheat any more than being attracted to men will make me cheat. There are people though, that are just natural cheaters, straight, gay, bi, whatever.
And really, we need to stop placing all the blame for STDs and HIV on the gay community. Every person I have ever known that has gotten an STD got it from heterosexual sex with a heterosexual person. I know this isn’t representative of the population.
I’d just like to say that there was a time when black people as a whole were thought to be dirty, disease-ridden, unworthy of marriage and subordinate to the rest of the population.
So before you get all disgusted by your own brothers and sisters, think about how you would feel for being treated that way for being the way that you naturally are.
August 15th, 2011 | 10:59 am
@mr.man, preach my brutha!!! well put!!!
August 14th, 2011 | 4:22 am
I’m pretty torn on this. I’m all for accepting someone totally for who they are and not judging them on their desires or preferences. Living a gay, straight, or bisexual lifestyle is absolutely not a choice but something that is innate in you. In my opinion, ideally, if you love someone and see them as a potential mate, you should still feel that way about them regardless of their past or sexual preference. A man’s revelation that he is bisexual does not mean he is going to run off and bump uglies with the first person he can. Infidelity and promiscuity is a reflection of someone’s character and NOT their sexual orientation.
However, I know that everyone is not as open minded and accepting. To assume that black women will start considering bisexual partners simply to expedite the nuptials is a bit preposterous. It’s not going to (necessarily) become part of our list of things we look for in a man.
At the end of the day, we can’t help who we love (given that love is usually the reason why people get married, call me crazy). Would I prefer to marry a straight man over an admittedly bisexual man? Yes. But for me, how that man treats me and proves me that he is committed to me is what will trump all.
August 13th, 2011 | 5:24 pm
I agree with Ken – these comments are a disgrace. You all are really need to reevaluate the biases you hold toward certain groups of people. Bi – sexual is NOT gay because gay men don’t desire sexual relationships with straight women. If he is a “good” black man and has had sex with men but wants to persue a relationship with me , I’m willing to give it a chance.
August 13th, 2011 | 12:50 pm
And yes we are divorced.
August 13th, 2011 | 12:46 pm
I so totally agree with Mr. Man. Not because I was considering it but because I unfortunately lived it. I am a heterosexual female. My ex-husband did not tell me from the start that he was bisexual. Instead I found out after two children and us being seperated for a couple of years. I noticed some things he did that didn’t seem right but he would always throw distractions by insulting or making negative comments about gays.
We seperated for two years and decided to try to stay together one more time before deciding to divorce. I had been doing a lot of thinking and contemplating and decided to confront him when on the same day I was to confront him, I found naked pictures of men on his computer at his home. I confronted him with all the evidence and speculations I accumulated. He told me he wanted to come clean and tell me the truth. He admitted that he was bisexual.
Now here is where I believe experience with this article comes in. His admittance was out in the open and I then had the choice to stay or walk away from my marriage. He cryed and crawled up in a fetus position. He swore that part of his life and lifestyle was history and wanted to make our marriage work. He swore that he was committed to only me and our children. Although I felt ashamed, I decided to give it another chance. I truly thought that his oath to me would be enough to get us through.
Not so. I would go to work and come home to find a gay porno in the vcr that he forgot to take out. We were being harrased by a male that would constantly call the house of which I found out later that he dated while we were seperated. Mr. Man is also right when he says you as a heterosexual female will never be able to compare to a bisexual man’s appetite.
And yes we both got tested. I became pregnant a third time during our second try at marriage and so I was also tested again to make sure the baby came out healthy. We all were tested ok but this can never compare to the emotional scars.
People have commented “mind your own business” and “it’s not that bad” but I present my scenario. Not that everyone’s situation will end up like mine, but is that 50/50 chance worth it. If I had to do it again, I promise you I wouldn’t have taken the chance.
August 13th, 2011 | 11:36 am
I’m offended by the idea that us Bi-sexuals are considered disease ridden and harlots because of someone else mis-education. We, like EVERYONE else can and more than likely are looking for monogamous relationships, and even if we weren’t its really different then the heterosexual man or woman who sleeps with whoever they please. And to the Black heterosexual man that feel attack by this, don’t be its not a failure on your part or admitting to be with a homosexual, I could at least for most women it would be an eye-opening experience.
August 13th, 2011 | 1:31 am
Is this article f***ing serious? I hope and pray to God that this is satire.
August 12th, 2011 | 6:15 pm
This is hilarious.
I was brought to this blog by a woman who asked “Are some black women really that desperate”? Apparently so.
As a HETEROsexual black man, I laugh (not really, because this really isn’t funny) at the fact that there are straight black women so desperate to get married that they will consider marrying a man who has revealed that he is gay.
SIDENOTE :: Yes, BISEXUAL is gay. If you are attracted to/have had sex with a person with the opposite sex, you are *drumroll* gay. Admitting it ALSO means that you will continue to be as such (attracted to/liable to have sex with same sex individuals). It’s like a man on the DownLow saying that he isn’t gay (that always provokes laughter). The only difference is that he isn’t on the DownLow – he’s putting it out there from the jump…so if his woman finds out he’s been sleeping with men, he can simply say “Well I told you that I was bisexual. Whats the problem?” Him being honest about it doesn’t make anything better or more promising. It only allows the woman to accept all that comes with it from the start, or get the heck out of there before heartache and confusion.
Now, let’s say that a black woman decides to expand her ‘relational’ palette by dating openly bisexual men. If she is the ‘freaky’ type that looks forward to threesomes and swinger parties, or if she doesn’t mind ‘sharing’ him with any guy at the gym he meets, then maybe she ought to get her feet wet in this new territory.
But let’s be real…. MOST black women DREAD the day that their man drops the “I’m gay” bomb on them.
They can’t compete…for starters.
The risk of STDs (HIV) is SUPER high in the LBGT community (its a risk factor NO MATTER what sexual orientation you are..especially if you’re not monogamous). [No, i'm not saying HIV is a 'gay disease'. So don't get all FOX News on me].
And now she knows that he has WAY more ‘options’ to resist than just women. Now she has to worry about ANY HUMAN BEING taking her place.
I mean, really folks… what real benefit is it for single, ready-to-mingle heterosexual black women to start MARRYING openly bisexual men? …the only thing they will accomplish is marriage. They will get their diamond ring. Whoohooo! …but they will get a WHOLE lot more than that once his homosexual side starts to want attention that she can not provide.
(This is so stupid that I can’t stop shaking my head as I write this).
OH, and ‘black men marry bisexual women all the time’??? Really??? So black men do something stupid, black women should do it too??? How intelligent. The black men who marry bisexual women shouldn’t be getting married themselves. Chances are, they are looking forward to having two women in their beds and whatnot. What they FIND, on the contrary, is that many of these bisexual women tend to spend more and more time with other women….soon, they don’t even WANT their man anymore. When they have problems in the relationship, where do you think she is going to run? TO A WOMAN! She is much less likely to stick around and work through issues if she has external options that the man has already approved. #stupidchoices
@Taryn, @MB, thank you.
@Danielle (author), in no way do I mean to insult or otherwise offend YOU specifically. All of my disgust is with the issue you placed on the table, not you.
August 12th, 2011 | 4:58 pm
HELL NO!!!!!!!!! Im not going to be with a man thats been with a man.. No sooo many nasty diseases that can b contracted fron that.. HepB being the easiest for us women… NOT ok….
August 12th, 2011 | 2:04 pm
Wow!! i must be gettin old. i am an educated single heterosexual black man. i cannot believe this is even a point of contention. i tend to agree with taryn and ashley. jeez people ..really?!!? sistas i apologize on behalf of all black men if we have failed you all to the point that articles telling you to date white men and consider bisexual men as life partners actually exist and are given serious consideration.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:48 pm
Thought provoking as usual D! I think I’m the kind of woman that would turn away from furthering the relationship in a romantic way. Even if he planned on being monogamous, I still would prefer a husband/partner who’s always been heterosexual. I don’t know why, but that’s my preference. I might be missing out, but that’s just the way I feel at the moment. You never know until you’re faced with the situation though.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:45 pm
Bad enough that you have to worry about this man being attracted to other women but other men too!? You mean my partner could possibly have dibs on men & women in whatever age bracket he pleases. This is a hot steaming mess. I gotta worry about idk how many women are in earth?? What ever that number is PLUS the men??? Bye.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:21 pm
You people and your opinions. No wonder the world is so f*cked up these days.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:11 pm
@Michele That doesn’t make any sense. Does a straight man keep in the ‘lifestyle’ of being straight and continuing to sleep with women even after he’s been married. Just because a man is bisexual doesn’t mean he doesn’t believe in monogamy. Monogamy is something that crosses all sexualities.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:09 pm
I swear they need to round up all of you folks pushing this BS to the masses, it’s no secret they will believe anything. Each of you need to be lined up and beaten. This is ridiculous.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:03 pm
Ok, I need to bring up an important question before I weigh in on this one… Are we talking about a man who has in the past had sexual experiences with both men and women and he intends to stop the behavior once he marries a woman, or is this someone who plans to continue a bisexual lifestyle even after marriage? Because to the latter I scream a loud and adamant “HELL TO DA NAWL!” Going into a relationship giving my partner permission to cheat is not something I could’nt agree to, and we also have to consider the obvious health risks associated with condoning such behaviors.
August 12th, 2011 | 1:00 pm
Bisexual does not mean non-monogamous. It just means that when a person is looking for sex and/or a relationship, they consider both men and women. It doesn’t mean they have to sleep with men and women both, at any given time.
August 12th, 2011 | 12:59 pm
There is a guy that I’ve been in love with since college and who meets the majority of my criteria for a husband but he’s bisexual. He likes me as well but I couldn’t get over the fact that he’s sexually intimate with men and enjoys it. He wants to have a wife, he wants to settle down but I just can’t do it, not with him.
August 12th, 2011 | 12:57 pm
As a bisexual woman, I have absolutely no problem dating a bisexual man. I mean, if he’s a good man, then why should him being bisexual be an immediate disqualification? Is his sexual orientation something that immediately makes you think that he is promiscuous and sleeps with any man or woman? Not if you ask me. A history of sexual relations with a man is the same as a man’s sexual history with a woman. Did you use protection? Have you gotten an STD test recently? Yes, no. Those are determining factors, not him being bisexual.
August 12th, 2011 | 12:42 pm
You guys seriously need to miss us with this bullshit. Excuse my profanity, but this is ludicrous. Opening yourself to a non-monogamous partner opens yourself to an increased risk of infection of various STDs, not to mention the four letter death sentence. We already have a problem with it in this community, and we don’t need to exacerbate the problem any further. All these so-called magazines that are “for” black women seem to be more and more increasingly serving us self-destructive filth. This educated Black woman won’t stand for it!