Comments on: Sexting Isn’t Cheating: The Secret Benefit of Digital Affairs

By: Ashley

Ashley — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 03:04:40 +0000

Nope, it’s cheating. If you had a boyfriend, you wouldn’t want him doing that. And frankly, I don’t understand why you’re filling your time with this fantasy when real relationships are so much more rewarding? Isn’t actually sucking his dick so much better than just talking about it?

By: Rohan

Rohan — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 20:49:24 +0000

I don’t get it. Why do so many people treat betrayal and deception so casually? It’s a naive idea to fall in love and just expect things to work out. Something as beautiful as a healthy relationship requires complete trust and faith, not a gameplan that involves fulfilling S&M fantasies with someone else, no matter if that someone is absent in some way- physically or emotionally. That’s cheating.

By: Sexxyshea

Sexxyshea — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 14:31:33 +0000

Ha! Looks like nobody in there right mind agrees with this article. As a married woman I call the BS! I wish my husband would!

By: yours truly

yours truly — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 03:06:15 +0000

i call BS. girl, virtual or not, this is nothing short of a window to infidelity. you’re just twisting it to suit your own purposes cause no physical contact is involved. if it keeps STIs from spreading, fine and good. and it may very well suit the purposes of your current lifestyle, career-wise etc, so to each their own. I just think as adults, we should be real and call a spade a spade.

“it’s also important to express every aspect of who you are. If you can’t do that with the one you are committed to in the real world, the most painless way to meet unmet needs is through the imaginary one.”

nope. a real partner should:

1) be willing to work with their significant other until they become comfortable along those lines

2) RESPECT the fact that their s/o just isn’t down with it and value them as they are anyway

or if it’s a deal breaker

3) stop wasting their time, break it off & commit to someone who can fulfill that desire.

this online sex rendevous is just a form of escapism that helps him avoid the fact that he’s not 100% happy within his relationship. which in itself is pretty sad if his relationship isn’t meant to be an open one. is that directly your problem to deal with? no. but you can’t say you’re being fair to the girlfriend because nothing happened in person. the disrespect is still there, just to a lesser degree.

and if you do choose to commit fully to a man in the future, i certainly hope you can be just as secure to find one who engages in this same activity with a virtual woman on the low and still feel like you are properly satisfying him at the end of the day. the shoe always looks nice until we’re forced to wear it and walk in it. just saying.

By: sunshyne84

sunshyne84 — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 23:22:44 +0000

Chile please.

By: Sexting Isn’t Cheating: The Secret Benefit of Digital Affairs « Clutch Magazine

Wed, 13 Jul 2011 22:19:51 +0000

[...] From VIBE Vixen – I know what it’s like to engage in an illicit online relationship. When the news broke that former Rep. Anthony Weiner had been engaging in sexual exchanges over the Web, my own internal censor went off. I began struggling with the implications of my own desires, because I had been getting into it deep with an attached guy online for months. While the Weiner spectacle has come to an end, I’m still embroiled in the problem. For I am the woman on the other side. I’m the one with your guy – digitally. [...]

By: Hmm

Hmm — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:21:32 +0000

I find the author of this post to be no different from a woman who is actually messing around with someones man and being the side chick. Whether its virtual or physical you are still playing the same role. Not once in this post did you put yourself in the other position. What if you found out your man had been sexting with another woman. Sure you can assume they are only doing this through texts but how do you KNOW. You’re playing with fire.

I agree with OSHH, if you have to lie about it, then its not appropriate.

By: CK

CK — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:14:24 +0000

*ground

By: CK

CK — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 20:12:28 +0000

“Until that happens, we shouldn’t feel guilty for things that take place only in our minds”

huh? The mind is the breeding grown for all of the craziness we do as humans. And all of the hurt we cause on one another. We thinketh before we doeth. If you had a bf, would it be cheating if he was doing the same thing, with someone else?

“He wanted to get his sexual ego fed, meet unmet needs without actually cheating, and I completely get it. This seems normal, human and natural. It’s only admitting it in our society that is taboo.”

It’s normal to want to get our egos fed? but is it healthy? is it life giving?

There is nothing natural about hurting people you say you love.